Teach Your Child To Be a Goal-Getter!

by Brian Puppa

If you want your child to have a good year in school and be successful in life, helping them learn how to set and achieve goals is key. Educator Susan V. Bosak works with schools across the country and serves as Chair of the national Legacy Project, an education initiative with the nonprofit Parenting Coalition and Generations United in Washington, DC. She has some ideas to help parents and teachers start the school year right.

Up to 30% of students drop out of school. Of those who graduate, Bosak reports that in her workshops more than half admit to being aimless. Research shows it's critical to get kids thinking early -- in elementary and middle school -- about what's important to them and why. Dreams and goals give life purpose, direction, and meaning. They help young people build toward the future, and offer a sense of control and hope.

"Our dreams and goals shape our life choices," says Bosak. "Helping children identify their goals, learn how to achieve them, and how to make the associated choices is the best gift a parent or teacher can give."

Setting and striving for goals helps children learn responsibility, how to break a large task into manageable steps, how to work with others to get what they want, how to handle stress, what's realistic and what may not be, and to believe in who they are and what they can accomplish.

There are free online ideas and activities parents and teachers can use at www.legacyproject.org. Here are some of Bosak's top tips:

-- Start the school year with a Goal Letter. Children should identify something they'd like to learn more about or get better at, learn how to do, or a fear they'd like to overcome. With the help of a parent or teacher, they write a Goal Letter that includes what they want to do, why they want to do it, the specific steps to get it, and a specific date to achieve the goal.

-- Develop a Learning Pledge together that children sign. Include items like listening better in class, asking the teacher questions when they don't understand material or an assignment, taking a few extra minutes to double-check homework before handing it in, and starting to study for a test at least three days beforehand.

-- Schools can create a Hallway of Dreams. Each student's name and photo is featured on a large yellow star. On three smaller yellow stars hanging from the large star, each student writes a goal for the school year, a personal goal for something they would like to be or do when they get older, and a dream for our world. Hang the stars in the school hallway to remind students of their goals and inspire them for the school year.

-- Help children develop the skill of identifying and ordering the steps needed to achieve a goal. The Legacy Project's Ladder to the Stars downloadable fill-in sheet offers a fun way to do this.

-- Help children create a "Better Me" list -- things they can do on a regular basis to improve themselves and build character. These might include reading one new book a week, writing in a daily journal or writing to a long-distance grandparent once a month, studying an extra 15 minutes a day, helping a younger brother or sister with homework. Post the list in a prominent location.

-- We all have different strengths and achieve goals in different ways. Using the Dreamer Profile, help children explore whether they're a Creative, Dynamic, or Practical Dreamer.

-- To help them discover who they are and their dreams, children can decorate a cardboard box to create a Dream Chest. Children can fill the Dream Chest through the school year with anything that interests or inspires them -- newspaper and magazine articles, images, cartoons, quotations. Parents and teachers can discuss and help children discover patterns in the items in their Dream Chest.

-- Encourage children to choose a Historical Hero – an interesting historical figure who can serve as a role model. Make it a project to learn more about him or her over the school year.

-- Set a Dream Time every week. Read inspiring books aloud together and discuss them. What interests kids? What inspires them? What questions does a book spark? What more can children find out?

For all the back-to-school activities, tips, and contests, visit www.legacyproject.org.